- Vedant Dastikopp

Friendship breakup.
Sounds almost unreal, doesn’t it? Like something too small to hurt, too quiet to name.

As kids, endings were simple. A soft katti, a turned back, and the world moved on.
No goodbyes, no grieving. Just silence.
But growing up taught me what no one warned me about—
that the quietest goodbyes are the ones that echo the loudest.
Losing a friend is like watching your reflection fade from a mirror you once shared.
And worse still? Sometimes, they weren’t just friends.
They were the scaffolding of your soul.

But friendship breakups don’t come crashing in like storms.
They slip in unnoticed—no final argument, no dramatic goodbye.
Just delayed replies, missed moments, and memories left on read.
You scroll through their stories—new faces, new memories—
and realise you’ve become a ghost in a life you helped build.

And somewhere in the ache, a whisper:
I should’ve said sorry when I had the chance.
I didn’t want to lose someone who felt like home.

Then someone casually says, “Tum log toh dost hua karte the na?”
And just like that, the dam breaks.
Suddenly, you’re back in those fragments—
shared tears, chaotic dreams, midnight calls, promises that once felt too strong to break.
You weren’t just friends. You were lifelines in each other’s chaos.
And now? You’re just a sentence in someone else’s nostalgia,
a name they might smile at, but no longer reach for.

What hurts the most isn't that they moved on or stopped caring—
it’s that your own mind became the battlefield.
Your heart was too heavy, your thoughts too loud,
and in protecting yourself, you ended up pushing away
the one person who once felt like home.
You said things you didn’t mean, built walls you never meant to finish,
and now you're left with echoes of what once was.

Sometimes I look back and think—
if only my mind had been a little gentler,
if only I had let them in instead of shutting down,
maybe I wouldn’t have lost someone who meant everything.

But then you realise the quietest act of love you can offer is distance.
Not silence out of spite, but space born from care.
You no longer walk beside them,
but you still carry their laughter tucked quietly inside you.
And when you hear they’re doing well,
a soft, secret warmth rises in your chest—unspoken, but real.

You don’t reach out. You don’t try to return.
You simply carry the weight of the bond that once was,
not as a regret, but as a reminder—
that some people enter our lives not to stay,
but to shape the parts of us we didn’t know needed shaping.

And maybe, just maybe,
that’s enough.